128. What is The Secret to Your Five Year Plan | Cartwright Morris

My mission is to forge men into confident leaders in business, family, and community. So my focus is on helping young professionals navigate business and life with confidence. 

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What excites me is problem solving this specific issue in young professionals and how to help you gain confidence and navigate your business and life with confidence. 

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All right, welcome in the mirror forge podcast. What is the secret to your five year plan? For many of my clients, we've talked through just the idea of what you want your life to look like in five years, not at your work, career, family, all these different things. Some even my clients have hit on this emotional part of your five year plan, like I want to have more peace in my life, I want to have less anxiety, I want to be more excited on a daily basis, look forward to Mondays that like this motional state as well as the physical right? Promotion, job, all these things, right. And I think we put these as barometers for success. And I would say the the secret to you creating a barometer of success that's lasting, is really the secret to you creating a barometer for success, meaning getting from where you're at now to where you want to be in five years is come for entation. And the secret is confronting your insecurities and fears. As men, this is what I love working with men, especially in businesses, because there is always a forward thinking, wanting certain results, wanting to build something beyond just what you currently have. And what that brings up as we move forward is insecurity has been to pop up as we have more responsibility as we have more leadership roles. As we take on more things in our life. insecurities, our lack things that we wish we had as men as leaders as as men in business, right, we wish there was a higher level of success that we had, and therefore the insecurities pop up. And we compare ourselves and all these different things, right? So therefore, this is the secret to your success and creating a healthy barometer of success when you're willing to in the midst of growing and building, I think we all have a really pretty good idea what we want, though, in the midst of growing in confidence in our roles in our areas of leadership, whether it's family, or business, right? Is we have to be willing to confront those insecurities because that becomes our way to success. Because we actually then can be more individually stronger and capable and more confident in to lead in those areas. Success is a good thing being results minded, I think is a good thing. I am not that way. And I admire people who are who can be motivated in that way. But your if your barometer for success, your secrets to success is being the is numbers is the scoreboard of life with everyone else, then your success will be limited in your ability to grow as confident as a man and a leader. It's just the truth and being confident in your business. Being confident as a father as a husband. That's the issue that we continually need to address. And that becomes from dressing your insecurities. I know in my life this is the I would say I'm definitely not an expert in but this has been my life journey is my willingness to when I feel that discomfort when I experience something new when I take act make take bold action because I think that's the difference between boldness and confidence because Boldness is kind of courage, this little brother, right? Because confidence is this mindset. We're all wanting to get in to be confident in these areas. Not only competent but confident. Right, that there's this and the confidence is this mindset that we take on that we feel a level of excitement or intentionality or ability to accomplish something because we're we feel that confident. That's that mindset, right? Or Boldness is generally the it can be the opposite, right is we're willing to act despite feeling confident that actually it's more in the presence of fear, then confidence that we're willing to act and I think that's really where we grow in where we confront insecurity and growing confidence is when we're willing to act boldly in our eyes action. And as I've moved across the country, as I've taken new jobs, as I've started my own business, as I've done this podcast, all these different things that I'm like, I am clueless, there's no reason for me to really have a podcast, if you look at my skill set, I'm not very technologically advanced, I don't really know how to really create a social media platform. I am just clueless in a lot of these areas, I'm pretty introverted. So therefore talking to a lot of people at once, isn't necessarily what I naturally am confident at, right. But I do it because I know the value, it brings the people and I know what it does, when I continually depress and do more, that I am growing in confidence in these areas, my ability to speak to men, my ability to coach men, my ability to interview someone, and engage and network, and do all these things that I am not super confident in. But I'm growing in confidence, because I'm willing to act boldly. And I definitely am seeing this beyond just even, you know, work. You know, you see this when really as a husband that I'm willing to engage in harder conversations with my wife, I'm willing to love her even when I don't feel like it right. There's these things that when we, we feel a lack of confidence, we want to pull away, we want to move around, and take the easy a lot of ways the easy way out. And unfortunately, when we have other options to do, that's what we do. But I would say a mark of success. That's why I keep coming back as your secret to your success is you're willing to confront these insecurities in the midst of action, the midst of moving forward, this is what people talk about loving the process, because the word destiny, you know, the journey is not the destination, right? That language, right. The goal is the journey, not the destination, you know, some of that wording we've used. But that's that's the, I think the point they're trying to make when they're saying that is in the midst of the action, not necessarily the result is where we really find out the quality of people we are the quality of leader, the quality of person, the the places, we need to address our blind spots, I have got so many blind spots in the midst of starting my own business, finding out where I am incompetent in and where I lack confidence. But if I just moved around it, I would not grow. I would not get better at this and be in a place where I want to be because I see the goal. I see the five year plan. I know it I know it's there. But if I just you know, hit the quit button, hit the move around. thing, you know, I would not get to experience that five year plan because of the fear of the insecurities that I'd have to move around of addressing some of these places in my life. So yeah, needless to say, this is this is what today is. This is your barometer of success that I really hope you're willing to do. This is what I love to do in men's life is really you find places of confidence in your leadership in your bill abilities. I mean, this is the feedback I get from my clients is the midst of working with me they have found the ability to grow and competence make powerful decision as leaders in their business in their life and their family in every day to find that confidence because they're willing to meet with me and address these things. Yeah, so check out Mr. forbes.com. For more information, feel free. I would love to continue this conversation with you personally as well. So you can go check out that Mr. forbes.com and hit the Free call. And let's just keep talking. Because I love just problem solving this specific issue and then addressing really how do you find confidence to really gain confidence in your business in your life and really navigate your business and your life with confidence. Like that's what we're all trying to figure out in our 20s and 30s. And so, I'd love to help you. So yeah, go to metaphors.com